Hurt yet again

Broken_mind · 07-15-2008, 11:15 PM

Ok so about 2 months ago i started seeing this guy, we were just seeing each other. At first i refused to do anything other than kiss this guy cos i knew him from school and i didnt wana get a bad reputation.

Anyways we started getting to know each other really well and he asked me why i always had a guard up against my feelings and didnt let people close to me. I just said it was cos i had been hurt too much in the past. Anyways i eventually let it down cos i trusted him and we slept together.

We still werent exclusive, which suited me fine as i was going away on a girly holiday clubbing. Once i got home i was only back for a week before i went away again for another 2 weeks. We spent everyday together and the day i left he asked me out.

Then while i was away i got the sweetest emails etc saying he was missing me loads but when i returned home i had a txt saying we need to talk call me. So basically he turned around and said he thot he rushed into things too quickly since as he had just left school he didnt want to be tied down by anything so basically i got fuked over yet again because i let my stupid guard down! you would think i'd have learnt by now! xxx

CyberPhoenix Kay? · 07-16-2008, 12:05 AM

guys can be fuckheads.. this is true....

not all of them are... this is also true.

If you keep your guard up, yes, all the fuckheads will be out of the problem, but, so will the nice ones... I don't see a problem with letting your guard down, there are gonna be bad ones and good ones.

Also, i don't see this guy as a fuckhead, he could have done alot of bad things, he could have cheated, he could have been offensive but what he did sounded relativily thoughtful, he didn't see things working and he broke it off before feeling got even more attached and the relationship progressed into something that was strong, but was never gonna work.

Maybe it had somthing to do with you going away for so long o.0? Just suggesting that, but it is possible.

Broken_mind · 07-16-2008, 12:11 AM

i get what your saying. He could have been alot worse. He brought it up before we broke up and said he was afraid of the commitment thing is he said he wanted to continue seeing me cos he obviously had feelings for me.

I simply said that i was sick of being just another girl to a guy because i only ever seem to "see" people. Also the fact that he only has unprotected sex (as in pill no condom) i wasnt comfortable sleeping with him if he was sleeping with other people.

Markme · 07-16-2008, 09:54 PM

i just think you have to wait a little and not chase down another guy right after this one.
I agree with christoph and all the points he made.

CJDude · 07-16-2008, 10:23 PM

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Also the fact that he only has unprotected sex (as in pill no condom)

then your better off with out him, best way to get pregnant, or gohnaria!

right up to the unprotected sex part the guy was doing well, you both rushed into some thing, you arnt the first cople to do that, and you wont be the last, we all do it from time to time.

You just have to both go your seperit ways, their will be some one out their for you

Broken_mind · 07-16-2008, 11:30 PM

Thanks. I know it was stupid but at least i do know he was clean and so was i. Anyway i think in a way im just pretty gutted the first guy i liked and trusted after what happened ended up screwing me over so quickly.

OzzieJess · 07-18-2008, 02:22 AM

i'm 22 and guys still break my heart... I have this huge wall around my heart now. I don't know if anyone eill be able to get through...

but you can't stop letting people in. my heart has rips and has been broken but you just can't give up.

It's hard to trust people when everyone you've ever trusted/loved/cared about has left you, but you can't give up.

CyberPhoenix Kay? · 07-18-2008, 01:58 PM

I'm sorry that you got gutted broken, it's never pleasant...

But you are a great girl and i know that you will find a great guy someday, You too jess
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So like Jess is saying, never give up!

Broken_mind · 07-18-2008, 03:07 PM

i kno im hoping when i go away to uni i will actually find va decent and mature guy xxx

nelvannya · 07-18-2008, 06:32 PM

You know it really is amazing what feelings for the opposite sex can do for and to you. Its one of those things that it happens, guys will break your heart, girls will crush your souls, and we all know it happens, yet some how it hurts even though we know that to be hurt by some one like that is normal. And then to fix that hurt we go looking for another person. Sorry I am having little epiphanys. But I guess we all get thru it until the next guy or girl. So keep your head up, something else is around the corner, but dont look for it wait for it to bump into you.

Broken_mind · 07-18-2008, 08:00 PM

yeh it was wierd cos thats what i said i was gona do and then in the same day an old crush and an ex (that shouldnt really have ended) both got in touch with me. spooky eh x

OzzieJess · 07-19-2008, 12:49 AM

lol... it's funny how life works..
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I'm pretty over the opposite sex at the moment...
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not that it's really there fault... it's just well they call it a crush for a reason... it's only going to hurt. and falling is falling, from a tree, in love, it's the same you get hurt in the end.
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I just want to have fun.
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Broken_mind · 07-19-2008, 11:09 PM

Goood for you jess im glad your picking yourself back up xxx

Markme · 07-20-2008, 01:11 PM

Love doesnt hurt you, you hurt yourself...
I know that its hard not to be upset when something special ends, but in the end its yourself thats hurting you.
It sucks, but at the same time it makes you human.

I havnt had a girlfriend in about 3 years now, dont lock your emotions down like i did.

OzzieJess · 07-21-2008, 12:13 AM

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I havnt had a girlfriend in about 3 years now, dont lock your emotions down like i did.

Sometimes it's hard not too... :(

But you're right, it is yourself that hurts you... cos you let yourseld get hurt... well that's just how i see it..

And i'm now waiting for Edward Cullen... or someone who can give me butterflies, and take my breath away like he can... (yes i know he isn't realy)