Frustrations

Markme · 04-28-2007, 07:28 AM

Well...
There's this girl and i used to like her and she knew that i liked her, and she liked me. I told her that i liked her, And she was like errrmmm well i have a boyfriend now.

And yea i didnt mind, because we are like best friends and i just was happy for her. Now that im good friends with her boyfriend, last night i was at that party and she was like, lets go for a walk.. im bored an the party is dying down.

i was like, yea sure why not!
any way we ended up walking a fair way away from the party and we ended up at the beach. We talked for about 30mins - an hour. Then some how she ended up kissing me and i think a kiss is harmless so i kissed her back.

So when i did that, she got ontop of me and started kissing me some more.
Then we eased off a little and went back to talking, and she started asking me stuff like, why didnt you ask me out and stuff to do with that.

And in my head it was tearing me up, because her boyfriend is a legend, you cant not love the guy.

Any way then she starts kissing me again, and the next thing i know... shes asking me if i have a condom...
I dont get it, is it like a curse with me or something, i never get a single girl liking me, i get taken girls.
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What makes it worse for me is this girl was my best chick friend, she is legendary... but now im soo very confused..

!-nessica-! · 04-28-2007, 08:07 AM

maybe talk to her about it?
and if her boyfriend is ur friend.... then maybe u shld tell him if u did more than kiss...coz if he finds out from someone else then yeah u kno what happens.

but also shes asking you why you didnt ask her out... but if she liked you enough she could have asked you out as well?
just talk to her and dont let it get between ur friendship

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Markme · 04-28-2007, 08:30 AM

i dont think it will get between our friendship, ive learnt to act like things didnt happen even if im talking about it with the person.

We've talked about it, she said what we did was worth it..
but i dunno what i feel ay.
was it worth it?

!-nessica-! · 04-28-2007, 09:11 AM

well do you still like her?
if you do then it was worth it...
if you dont then it was kinda pointless..i guess

Markme · 04-28-2007, 09:41 AM

thats not how im thinking though, i'm never really clear when i like some one, my mind just tells me doubts, it never actually says you like her go go go..

and what i mean is, was it worth it, from that it has the possibility to destroy more than just a handful of friendships.

she's made it clear that she loves her boyfriend, but that it wasnt just a one time thing. I dont know how you can love some one and do that to them.

!-nessica-! · 04-28-2007, 10:14 AM

but you can tell whether you like someone though...
ie. ur always thinking of them and whenever you see them you smile and become outrageously happy

its a difficult situation...
just go on impulse
first thoughts and ideas are normally the best on things like this.

Markme · 04-28-2007, 03:52 PM

Thats the thing i dont know.
Either i musnt like them because i havnt felt anything like that in a year and a half.

I guess i just dont get my hopes up on liking some one too much, so if the answer is they arent interested, it really doesnt matter too me.
And i dont get excited to see any one really.

CyberPhoenix Kay? · 04-29-2007, 02:39 AM

You really do get a curse of getting taken girls....i get the curse of none at all
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But yeah mark...i mean...maybe you should tell her boyfriend because things just seem to get built up if they are kept in the dark..also it should sort things out...i mean if you brang that on to the table she is either going to go with him, or with you, or none, it wouldn't keep going the way it is...but she said it's not a one off i think...

Summary: if you want it to keep going her dating him and shagging you, then just keep it going...but if you want to sort it out...tell the bf.

Markme · 04-29-2007, 02:47 AM

the problem is, if i tell the boyfriend...
mass amounts of people will turn against me and hate me.

even one of my really good friends will hate me, because a mate of mine was telling her that i was having sex. and she was like "no he's not" "she has a boyfriend, she loves him" "she would never cheat on him" "mark wouldnt do that, he knows she has a boyfriend"

heartstrings · 04-29-2007, 02:58 AM

i don't think that was fair of her. first of all... she has a boyfriend. it wasn't right for her to toy with you like that. if you guys are good friends you should tell her that it shouldn't happen again unless she is single, etc etc... because just that one night left you in a shit position, especially since she's all "i love my boyfriend" - and he doesn't know. i guess you'll just hvae to brush this under the rug, unless you have any other ideas...

Markme · 04-29-2007, 03:08 AM

yea, i dont intend on doing it again, but then its like... do i still have a small amount of feelings for her.

for most things i find it really easy to put it aside, but now i just find it awkward on weekends now, even the night after i rang her and her friend to see what was going on... they were like we are watching a movie, you can come over.

and i was like errrmmm, i dunno, i may later.. and i just never rang back.

any way its just weird now.

thanx for the support

heartstrings · 04-29-2007, 03:13 AM

yeah, and making out didn't help... hah.

maybe if you wait it out it will be less awkward. i think although you say you're "used to situations like this" it is different with a closer mate. then again, you did say you were used to it, and so you kind of did the right thing not calling back and everything.

just hope that you can brush it off a little bit...
or wait for her to stop loving her boyfriend.. heh

Markme · 04-29-2007, 03:46 AM

mmm it was just a little more than kissing.
its odd that the girls had no idea what me and my friend were doing
but the fellas were like, marks having sex!! stop calling him.

and i didnt even know what was going to happen till we go to the beach.

it pretty much sucks that it was with her, while she has her boyfriend and not before she went out with him.

the bad thing is i dont know if i would change things.

heartstrings · 04-29-2007, 02:24 PM

-_-
sigh

yeah. well. i guess you could wait it out, if you want.

i mean you don't have to deal with all the emotional stuff i guess? will it be bad if her boyfriend finds out?

Markme · 04-29-2007, 03:13 PM

if her boyfriend finds out, it will be really bad.
he will probably get a group of his mates and try fight me, a good friend of mine will hate me and all the people i know and met through her.

Then theres my mates that are great friends with her... they wont like me.

its a pretty big list i guess.