How much do you value your virginity?

*SnoWhiteQueen* · 04-24-2007, 09:51 AM

This forum may be more for the female users, but a guy's point of view maybe helpful. I tend to be the old fashion type, saving my virginity for a man that i love (married to in this case). What do you think when you have one night stands, and premarital sex?

Tommeh!!! · 04-24-2007, 10:44 AM

well, i didnt value it ever, however when i did lose it, at the time i felt i was in love, obviously now i realise it wasnt...but im still glad that it meant something between us rather than just a casual shag.

*SnoWhiteQueen* · 04-24-2007, 11:05 AM

I think this question has been asked by many women...does sex just mean a release in men or do they ever do it with feeling and sentimental value?

Master_Ninja · 04-24-2007, 12:01 PM

i wish i was still teh virgin, i lost mine when i didnt want to, & then just kept goin with it.

i wanted to save mine for marrige even if im not a christian or watever, its good morals.
physically i may not be a virgin, but mentally & psychologically i feel i still am.

Tommeh!!! · 04-24-2007, 01:08 PM

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I think this question has been asked by many women...does sex just mean a release in men or do they ever do it with feeling and sentimental value?

well i cant speak as all men, but i know of a few round here who do feel that its just a fuck. im not the one night stand kind of guy, as sex does mean alot to me, and i do find it a very close and loving thing.

but dont follow the common stereotype of guys being the bad ones in this matter, as women are just as bad, its all down to personality, and im my town, the women are far worse than the guys for it....but i think thats partially due to the fact that theres loads more guys than girs here.

*SnoWhiteQueen* · 04-24-2007, 01:16 PM

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i wish i was still teh virgin, i lost mine when i didnt want to, & then just kept goin with it.

i wanted to save mine for marrige even if im not a christian or watever, its good morals.
physically i may not be a virgin, but mentally & psychologically i feel i still am.

Lol..you shouldnt be pushed into it..you have the right to say no and if you are still pressured it can be labelled as sexual assault.

Or did you just want to fo all the way? I think sex should be a thing enjoyed by married couples and this will make it more sacred...well that is my point of view anyways

*SnoWhiteQueen* · 04-24-2007, 01:19 PM

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well i cant speak as all men, but i know of a few round here who do feel that its just a fuck. im not the one night stand kind of guy, as sex does mean alot to me, and i do find it a very close and loving thing.

but dont follow the common stereotype of guys being the bad ones in this matter, as women are just as bad, its all down to personality, and im my town, the women are far worse than the guys for it....but i think thats partially due to the fact that theres loads more guys than girs here.

That is true that nowadays women has such low sense of dignity..it is such a waste i would think. nice to know that you take it seriously..not many do anymore....
so many i know has fell in to the one night stand stereotype girls....such a pity for them in me...

sarah2 · 04-24-2007, 06:03 PM

It's refreshing to hear that Tommeh, but, most of the guys I've met, think slightly different...bastards, fucking bastards.
Not all men, I've met one or two special guys who are wonderful.
But a lot of guys seem to just want one thing, if you know what I mean.
But, saying that, I havn't exactly been a good christian girl all my life either.
In answer to your question, I don't value it particuarlly. I think sex can be whatever you feel it is. I've had sex when it means nothing and I don't care about the guy, I've also had it when I've been in love that I want to last for ever and ever. Though, in my opinion, the latter is much better.
I don't even remember losing my virginity, and honesty, I'm not that bothered. I think it's a bit sad, but it's life. It's who I was then, not who I am now. It's something I'll never get back but, there are plently of things like that. I'm started to find my own dignity and self worth, but I just don't think that sex isn't the be all and end all.

*SnoWhiteQueen* · 04-25-2007, 03:26 AM

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It's refreshing to hear that Tommeh, but, most of the guys I've met, think slightly different...bastards, fucking bastards.
Not all men, I've met one or two special guys who are wonderful.
But a lot of guys seem to just want one thing, if you know what I mean.
But, saying that, I havn't exactly been a good christian girl all my life either.
In answer to your question, I don't value it particuarlly. I think sex can be whatever you feel it is. I've had sex when it means nothing and I don't care about the guy, I've also had it when I've been in love that I want to last for ever and ever. Though, in my opinion, the latter is much better.
I don't even remember losing my virginity, and honesty, I'm not that bothered. I think it's a bit sad, but it's life. It's who I was then, not who I am now. It's something I'll never get back but, there are plently of things like that. I'm started to find my own dignity and self worth, but I just don't think that sex isn't the be all and end all.

i think you're the first i've met that sex doesnt mean anything to you....

Markme · 04-25-2007, 08:56 AM

Well.... As i cannot speak for all guys aswell, But alot of girls and boys i know from young to old dont have any mutual feelings to do with sex.

But i think that most guys just have sex for a release, some guys are too obsessed with sex.

I personally dont rank sex very high on my agender, I dont usually have mutual feelings towards the person who i am having sex with, but thats because its not that sort of situation.

One night stands are good, if thats the sort of thing you are into, but bad when it turns into something more than a 1 night thing and the other person doesnt feel the same.

thats my 2 cents worth.

*SnoWhiteQueen* · 04-25-2007, 09:46 AM

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Well.... As i cannot speak for all guys aswell, But alot of girls and boys i know from young to old dont have any mutual feelings to do with sex.

But i think that most guys just have sex for a release, some guys are too obsessed with sex.

I personally dont rank sex very high on my agender, I dont usually have mutual feelings towards the person who i am having sex with, but thats because its not that sort of situation.

One night stands are good, if thats the sort of thing you are into, but bad when it turns into something more than a 1 night thing and the other person doesnt feel the same.

thats my 2 cents worth.

hmmm...so you mean you're a one night stand kinda guy? hmmm...i just wonder how does a guy really feel then during sex? just a release thing?

sarah2 · 04-25-2007, 11:02 AM

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i think you're the first i've met that sex doesnt mean anything to you....

No, I didn't say sex means nothing to me. I just said it wasn't the be all and end all, the end of the world, the big deal of relationships and life.
It's not the big deal everyone makes of it, was all I was saying.
I actually said, that I think sex is what you make of it. If you want a one night stand with no love behind your actions, then that's what it will be to you, if you want meaningful love making, well, again, that is what it will be to YOU.
It's about pereception rather than situation.
I also said that I prefered sex with someone I love rather than casual sex, because I believe sex IS about intimacy and love if that's what you want.
And honestly, I am terribly suprised you've never met anyone to whom sex means nothing, sex does not mean nothing to me, but I don't think it's as important as everyone thinks it is. I know plenty of people who don't believe that sex has anything to do with intimacy at all.
And if you'd actually read my post, you'd see that I also stated that the person who lost their virginity on drugs and at 14 is not the person I am today. And that I am begining to understand dignity and self worth but honestly, it's not something that comes naturally to me, and if you'd lived my life, I doubt you'd have much self worth either.
I'm sorry if this has come across slightly angrily, but you've missread what I was trying to say.

Markme · 04-25-2007, 11:26 AM

Uhm, i would preffere to have some one to love me, but it seams hard to find honest people you can trust and love at the same time.

I dont care about sex, alot of the time i will avoid getting into situations where i know it will just end in meaningless sex. By saying i dont usually have feelings toward the person, is simply just because some random person has wanted to and succeeded.

I never try to talk girls up any more, i got over it, i got over how in the end ive always felt that ive wanted something more than nothing. because a one night stand is nothing.

i wouldnt call it a release thing, but it feels good so people do it. Not all guys are like this, but alot of them are.

Betsybug0 · 04-26-2007, 12:56 AM

It does mean alot to me because I feel that it's very personal, I could not reveal myself to someone in that way unless I knew that it was worth it.

*SnoWhiteQueen* · 04-26-2007, 05:25 AM

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It does mean alot to me because I feel that it's very personal, I could not reveal myself to someone in that way unless I knew that it was worth it.

so with you on that point