help. I cant move on

Broken_mind · 03-12-2008, 01:47 PM

Ok so there was a boy and a girl. They fell in love, were soo happy. Then she made the biggest mistake of her life, and it all fell apart.

I was that stupid girl.

About 2 and half years ago i met the love of my life. He was 5 years older than me but we hit it off straight away. We were seeing eachother on and off for just over a year. and then we made it official and dated. After 8 months i cheated, i am not proud in the slightest. I came clean and told him. We stayed together 1 more month then he told me he could no longer lover me after what i did.

This was 6 months ago. He then moved on and dated one of my best friends (not the issue here) and then moved on from her to another woman who he has moved in with. However 3 weeks ago he pulled one of my friends and cheated on his gf.

ANyway to the point of this thread. I STILL love him. More than anything. and as a result i feel nothing for any other human being which means i cant move on. I have seen a few people since. but i simply cannot feel anything for them other than friendship and for no reason.

I think about him evry day until i fall asleep. then i dream about him then think about him again all day. etc. I havent spoken to him in about 5 months since we fell out because of my freind.

I do want to speak to him and have thought emailing him is the best plan. However i have no idea if this is a good idea or if he will reply or even what to write in first place ..........

HELP!!!

My Dreams killed me · 03-12-2008, 03:04 PM

I guess the only way I can help you is by asking this question....

Does he still have feelings for you?

Almost-Insane · 03-12-2008, 03:56 PM

tbh i felt a bit like this with someone (i imagine you know who) but i knew that nothing would come of it so basically just had to accept it and put up with it, maybe youll need to do the same. you might be thinking that its in no way the same cause i never got anywhere with her in the first place but thats not right coz the feelings were still there, just couldnt develope them physically like you two could, the fact that hes still with your friends sometimes doesnt help but maybe try to let some people know that you dont really like whats happening, if there true friends theyll understand and try to help.

Broken_mind · 03-13-2008, 01:22 PM

nah he isnt still with them it was just a 1 off that he pulled one of them.

And i dont know what he feels for me, whther he hates me or loves me. i havent spoken to him in so long

Almost-Insane · 03-13-2008, 02:26 PM

i doubt he hates you and i aint sure about the love part, tbh if he did i think he woulda tried speaking to you coz thats what guys usually do so like i said, might just be best to accept things and move on.

My Dreams killed me · 03-13-2008, 02:53 PM

I guess if he doesn't hate you it probally wouldn't hurt to at least try to contact him agian...but email might be too impersonal for some people...

Broken_mind · 03-14-2008, 07:57 AM

what can else can i do cos i physically couldnt bring myself to call him

Markme · 03-14-2008, 09:46 AM

well text him, that is deffinately alot easier than calling some one and you can just send him a small text and see if he replies to you.

My Dreams killed me · 03-14-2008, 02:55 PM

yeah, it's kinda like sticking your feet into water to check if it's the right temperature, I'd say texting would be pretty safe, if you can't text, maybe even an instant message, if your capable of that, cause then you can actually talk to the guy, or if you have the newer messengers, you can message him even if he's off line.

Broken_mind · 03-15-2008, 12:04 PM

he blocked me a long time ago. so i dont know if it works. but yeah i think im gona make contact. rather try and hear nothin than never hear. xxx

battlepoet · 03-15-2008, 10:17 PM

maybe before you contact him you should consider a few things like;

you cheated on him...why was that? you couldn't have been 100% happy in a relationship with him in the first place... maybe you were bored... didnt find him that attractive anymore.. or maybe you were just drunk and selfish...

before you contact this guy you have to remember why you allowed yourself to cheat in the first place, there was a reason for it originally you have to remember what that reason was! because if you know in your heart that seeing him will probably have the same ending because the problems weren't resolved then you have to move on, you have to remind yourself that it won't work because nothing has changed.

nelvannya · 03-15-2008, 10:45 PM

First of all Bravo brokenpoet

Love first off all you did mention that he blocked you???
I really think you should let this be the guy that got away, if you want to test the waters, ask him to watch a movie, or go to coffee and see how it goes.
But you really do not have the right, to be the one to pop the question, plus if he says no it will add to your hurt, it will be bigger than it was last time.
I think you should ask him to chill but expect nothing out of it, dont try and hold his hand, play with his hair, go for a peck, and dont mention that you still love him or anything, just be friends and let him decide if you to have a future

Broken_mind · 03-17-2008, 06:28 PM

look before u all start ganging up on me i never said i was gonna try and get anythin to happen again. he has a new gf! I wouldnt make a move anyways i amn't fukin stupid. I was just gonna speak to him not bloody well jump on him.

I just said i wasnt happy not speaking to him. Yeh i cheated and the reason i cheated was pretty much the guy forced it upon me. I was pretty much paraletic at his house!

wrlit_sists · 03-17-2008, 07:38 PM

yeah nel i think that was a bit inappropriate

at no point did she say she wanted anything to happen

just do what ever you think is best toots, but please be careful i don't want him hurting you again

xxx

Broken_mind · 03-17-2008, 07:58 PM

Thanks for stickin up for me chick.

thing is right he has some sort of power over me. I loved him for years and he loved me and then all of a sudden i fuk up for no reason and hurt myself.

He hurt me so much by going with her after he promised not to. He hurt me all through our relationship too. yet after all of that i still forgive him for everything. Just not speaking to him hurts even more.