help. I cant move on

[battlepoet]

theres no ganging up on anyone, this is just advice meant to help you make a decision, i can understand if you love him of course you'd want to contact him and explain how you feel, if you want to talk to him then you can (emails prob best if he's blocked you), nel as well as myself just noted that you said how much you still loved him and were thinking about him all the time, so i guess it suggests that you'd want to get back with him, if thats not what you want and i misunderstood then i apologise

[Broken_mind]

its not that i dont want to get back with him but i do just wana speak to him and no im not gonna profess my love. i know that would scare him i just miss him.

[metalhead_rose]

Hey, I just wanted to tell you Im going through something like that as well. I can't move on either, and I understand it's hard. Maybe emailing him would be a good idea. And don't profess your love, like you said you aren't going to do. good plan! :] Just see what's up with him, if's he's doing well. I'm not sure if friendship might be a future hope, but maybe in time you can establish one with him. I didn't read all the posts, just your first one, so i hope I helped a bit. Take care!!

[Broken_mind]

thanks good to know that somebody knows how it feels.

Yeh i dont know what i'll get out of it but why not try. x

[nelvannya]

Holy Shit...
First off I am a bit offended that you all thought I would "GANG" up on anyone on this site. I have respect for all people on this site, and an actual concern for most you! Not going to lie I am a bit hurt that you all thought after all this time, I would post something callous!

But for clarification, I was not trying to be mean, I was not trying to be a bitch by any measure. Maybe there was a tone inferred in the post. But by no means was I trying to be rude.
But in my defense the way you talk about him you sounded quite inamoured, and thinking about making move. More than likely the word love wasnt the best choice...
But ultimately I still think you shouldnt make the move... I think that if he doesnt have the same emotions you are going to find yourself hurt... really hurt.
I said all of that because I feared that you would break your own heart again.

For Future Reference: I do not post to be mean! I post to be truthful, and caring!

[forget_me_not]

I'm not going to pretend I know how you feel because I don't. But I do have to say that I was in a vaguely similar situation with a guy; it's a long story but we're still friends. Eventually you get used to it and stop loving them the way you did; trust me. If you can't bear to live without him send him an email, as a friend. All good relationships are based on friendship, and if he brings up the cheating just explain it to him. If he can't understand what happened then he's a pillock and he doesn't deserve you. Just make sure he doesn't use you for his own personal gain; we know how some boys can be.

[Broken_mind]

thanks forget_me thats actually a really informative way to put it and does kinda put it into perspective. i havent got round to emailing him and im trying not to think bout him xxx

[forget_me_not]

hey, no problem; just here to help. =]

[patchwork]

if you email him or talk to him - whats the worst that can happen? if it means you get that closure you really want, great - that might be just what you need to move on.
also be prepared for that to bring it all back and make you love him more (you can sometimes forget someone a bit and seeing them again brings those things back). but if you cant move on anyway - it wont matter what he says or does will it>?

[Broken_mind]

exactly patchwork. u seem to understand me.

SO far what im plannin on writing.

"Ok so i know im the last person you thought you would hear from anytime soon but i felt like i would email you. I know alot of harsh things were said and i am sorry for the things i said and did that hurt you, but i think that we are both mature adults and it seems such a waste to not talk anymore. Before everything, we were such good mates and we talked about everything and helped one and other out, i know its not like we can go back to that but i think to talk again would be good." x