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(sha) · 04-13-2007, 05:20 AM

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heartstrings · 04-13-2007, 01:41 PM

I don't think I could keep the baby without going psycho... I'm just not that optimistic of a person, I couldn't keep going like that.

(sha) · 04-13-2007, 07:08 PM

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heartstrings · 04-13-2007, 10:05 PM

I know it's sad.. but I couldn't do it for that long. I'd love the kid, probably, but if I ever got ticked off that would NOT be a good thing, you know?

(sha) · 04-13-2007, 10:34 PM

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OzzieJess · 04-14-2007, 12:05 PM

i couldnt keep the baby. mainly cos i know where being raped would put me. I'd be a mess, i'd be mentally sick. to the point i probably couldnt look after myself let alone a child. but also i couldn't keep the child it would be to hard on me. i would break.
plus i couldn't do that to the child... how mean could a person be.. oh you're daddy.. i don't know who he is. (that isn't a good answer... children need a dad)

CyberPhoenix Kay? · 04-14-2007, 12:37 PM

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so first off, im just posting this for opinions. it really bothers me and i wanted to know what everyone else thinks. ive seen some shows where someone was raped and got pregnant. right, so if this ever happened to you, would you keep the baby or get an abortion? i would probably keep the baby. i dont believe in abortion at all. and on a show i saw where the girl kept the baby and a few years later someone asked how she could look at her daughter. and she said "everytime i look at her, i dont see the man that raped me, i just see the beautiful child i have raised and all the good in her." or something like that. and it made me think. i couldnt imagine if something like this happened to me or someone i knew. but i couldnt imagine not keeping the baby either. cause if the rapist wasnt around them their whole life then the mother would raise the child the way they wanted to so the father wouldnt affect anything. ya know. but yeah this topic really bothers me, so i was wanting to hear other peoples opinions. anyone?

People like you are some of the main reasons i respect women so much. You go girl :=P:

Betsybug0 · 04-14-2007, 05:49 PM

I don't think I could get an abortion, but that choice should be made available to all women

Markme · 04-15-2007, 01:02 AM

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I don't think I could get an abortion, but that choice should be made available to all women

Yea i cant say i understand, but i've seen how hard it is for girls to make decisions like that.

CyberPhoenix Kay? · 04-15-2007, 01:19 AM

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Yea i cant say i understand, but i've seen how hard it is for girls to make decisions like that.

It's a VERY hard decision to make...very unfair that they have to make one of the hardest decisions in their life because of some other stupid idiot whilest they have fun...should be put upon no one...it's because of this i feel it is not wrong to keep the baby, and it's not wrong to abort it...but if you are going to have it, treat it right..

Personally i beleive that keeping the child would be the favourable decision, as the child is a life just like you were, and so should be given a chance...But i admire Women who go through this no matter which decision they make.

(sha) · 04-15-2007, 06:04 AM

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People like you are some of the main reasons i respect women so much. You go girl :=P:

thanks.
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CyberPhoenix Kay? · 04-15-2007, 01:47 PM

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thanks.
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and i understand everyone elses opinions. they all make sense in a way. they gotta be strong, no matter what they decide. ya know.

aye, No one should be put in this situation...and so any decision anyone makes should be respected.

sarah2 · 04-17-2007, 11:33 PM

It's a hard decision to make. But when put in the position, you think differently, but don't forget, you've a) just been raped and b) you've got a baby inside you which you dont want.
My mother was raped and I'm the result of it and that lead to our relationship ttoally breaking down and our eventual hatred for each other. She used to say that she saw him in my eyes and that she wished she'd had the abortion.
But, for me, it was different.
Before it happened to me, I thought exactly the same, noo, I couldnt get an abortion, I would feel love for my baby.
It wasnt like that. It was a year and a bit ago and it was totally surreal. From the day I found out I pregnant till the day I had the abortion, it was a blur. Being raped alone is horrific for anyone to experiance, but, well, its impossible to imagine, but, having that mans baby growing inside of you? Well, someone stronger could have dealt with it, but it drove me crazy. It wasnt just that, I did it because the baby would've had a shit life with me, in the thralls of a heroin addiction, my life was hardly the place for a baby.
I still somtimes wonder wether I made the right choice. But, at the time, I considered it really hard, really, really hard and I didnt have a home at the time either.
But, I cant go back on it, and people are going to judge me all my life for it, but the fact that I hate myself everyday for it, is enough punishment I guess.
Everyone needs to have the choice.
And in hindsight, would it have been right for me to have had that baby? I still dunno.
But yes. Real life story. It IS different when it happens to you.

(sha) · 04-18-2007, 04:28 AM

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CyberPhoenix Kay? · 04-18-2007, 05:06 AM

You should not debate with your conscience over this Sarah...it was not asked for by you, It was forced upon you, The decision you made could not have been wrong, you aborted, i support that, if you had kept it...i support that too...but what i acknowledge the most and what gives me the most respect is the fact you knew you couldn't give the baby a good life at that time, and so you chose against it..that i respect...there is only one thing i don't fully agreee with...

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b) you've got a baby inside you which you dont want.

Somtimes people do want the baby, while they probably don't the majority of the time. i don't think it is fair to claim that no one would.