Teen Marriage

*SnoWhiteQueen* · 03-19-2008, 08:01 AM

Teenage pregnancy is one thing but Teen Marriage? I don't deny that there are marriages that work but during your teenage years. Like 17 years to me is a bit young. I'm 17 going on 18 and I think that is also young. Personally, I think that waiting to be more mature should be the right way to go..I don't mean late 30-ish but like mid-20's.

I know there are alot of people who will disagree to my theory and should act upon love but looking at the statistics, marriage from high schools rarely last long. 99% of it that is.

I'm just looking for a friendly debate and let me know what you think!

!-nessica-! · 03-19-2008, 08:12 AM

ahh yes i agree. i think there that anything younger than about 23/24 is too young. for me it doesnt necessarily have to do with maturity level, more like how well your life is set out. because, when you're still young, you dont know where you're headed. there is so much that is still to change for everyone at that age, and normally, although we want our partners to come with us wherever we go, it doesnt happen and people at such a young age usually get seperated.

so yeah, i think although you may love each other enough to want to spend the rest of your life together, that isnt the issue. its the actual ability to spend the rest of your life together and get what you want out of a career etc.

*SnoWhiteQueen* · 03-19-2008, 01:57 PM

Exactly what I had in mind. Lol you basically can read my mind off this one. You put it much better in words than I do seriously!

nelvannya · 03-19-2008, 07:19 PM

Snow White,
May I ask what brought this on?

battlepoet · 03-19-2008, 10:07 PM

i agree with you guys, in theory i was going to get married at 18 with the girl i loved, i'm coming up to 22 now and i'm glad i didnt (things change including relationships), if i did i know it would only end up in a divorce as i realized i hadn't lived my teenage years like i should have done....

My Dreams killed me · 03-19-2008, 10:28 PM

I don't know...

I guess if you know what your doing...

I'd say the only thing that's truly stopping a succsessful teen marriage is the govermental resposibilities that comes with it..

I'd say if your that much in love, you'd wait...however if it's because of a pregnecy...sometiems their isn't many alternitives.

*SnoWhiteQueen* · 03-20-2008, 11:24 AM

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Snow White,
May I ask what brought this on?

Sorry if you found this offensive. I in no way meant to offend people but I just wanted some other people's point of view. I, myself think that it's just not right to get married that young, that's all. But I don't want to limit myself to only my opinions so I brought this up. Isn't this a place for freedom of speech? Sounds as if you're offended. If you are one of those that got married at an early age and have success in it. Good for you! I'm just curious so let me know if you are in this position..

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I don't know...

I guess if you know what your doing...

I'd say the only thing that's truly stopping a succsessful teen marriage is the govermental resposibilities that comes with it..

I'd say if your that much in love, you'd wait...however if it's because of a pregnecy...sometiems their isn't many alternitives.

Yeah..I would say the pregnancy is the whole sorta rushing thing. Like my mother...*sigh* got accidently pregnant and she had to get married. I wondered why she did it..it was only until after the wedding she told me that she had to marry the guy cause she got pregnant. I still don't have any siblings though which is good.

Sometimes she does wonder why she married that guy.

Markme · 03-20-2008, 02:04 PM

hmm i dont like the idea of marriage at all.
BUT if your going to look at marriage that way aswell, i believe its going to fail just as badly as if you got married at 16.

Because with the way people use love, if you loved some one fully and were tottally devoted to them, you wouldnt be able to look at a statistic and say "well if we get married before the age of 24 our marriage has a 85% chance of failing".

I think with love, its right then in the moment with the right person.
Impulse.communication, trust and respect.

sarah2 · 03-20-2008, 02:47 PM

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I'd say if your that much in love, you'd wait...however if it's because of a pregnecy...sometiems their isn't many alternitives.

Yeah, but nowerdays, you don't have to get married if the girl gets pregnant!
There are many other alternatives I think you'll find.

*SnoWhiteQueen* · 03-20-2008, 05:08 PM

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hmm i dont like the idea of marriage at all.
BUT if your going to look at marriage that way aswell, i believe its going to fail just as badly as if you got married at 16.

Because with the way people use love, if you loved some one fully and were tottally devoted to them, you wouldnt be able to look at a statistic and say "well if we get married before the age of 24 our marriage has a 85% chance of failing".

I think with love, its right then in the moment with the right person.
Impulse.communication, trust and respect.

Hmm..tough one..I don't know..Marriage just seems romantic..Guess that's a personal choice too.

Markme · 03-21-2008, 01:09 AM

yea but what i was sayin g was that how can marriage be counted as romantic if you can look at it as a statistic?

nelvannya · 03-21-2008, 03:02 AM

First of all let me hand out my opinon on the matter. I am not a fan of marriage, back in the day marriage was something I would have done full hearted. But in this day in age marriage has no value, people marry and divorce as they please, with no honour for the sanctity of marriage itself....

But I do see your point, marriage is more of a not nesacarily a romance thing, but an affair of the heart. When you are young your heart never beats the same, you dont really know what you are looking for in a wife or a husband. You barely know much about yourself (without parents you), so how can you know what kind of person you would be compatible with. And I think the statistic back it up

Oh BTW Snow, you didnt offend me, when I clicked on this post I was reading it from the "New Post" section, so I didnt understand where this way coming from. Now that I have realized it is in the Debate and Discussion corner it makes sense. I was trying to see if you had just been left at the altar, and was venting.

*SnoWhiteQueen* · 03-21-2008, 05:13 AM

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yea but what i was sayin g was that how can marriage be counted as romantic if you can look at it as a statistic?

Statistics? I don't look at marriage at a satistics..just the percentage of teen marriages that get through the end. That's all. I mean you might get married at like 40 and still get a divorce after a few months.

I personally think that marriage is a sacred vow between man and woman and I'm strongly against divorce except grounds on adultery, abuse and etc. If the case is that she divorces the husband cause she thinks he's boring in bed without even letting him know her thoughts that's just wrong to me.

*SnoWhiteQueen* · 03-21-2008, 05:22 AM

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First of all let me hand out my opinon on the matter. I am not a fan of marriage, back in the day marriage was something I would have done full hearted. But in this day in age marriage has no value, people marry and divorce as they please, with no honour for the sanctity of marriage itself....

But I do see your point, marriage is more of a not nesacarily a romance thing, but an affair of the heart. When you are young your heart never beats the same, you dont really know what you are looking for in a wife or a husband. You barely know much about yourself (without parents you), so how can you know what kind of person you would be compatible with. And I think the statistic back it up

Oh BTW Snow, you didnt offend me, when I clicked on this post I was reading it from the "New Post" section, so I didnt understand where this way coming from. Now that I have realized it is in the Debate and Discussion corner it makes sense. I was trying to see if you had just been left at the altar, and was venting.

Ah..I know many people that aren't fans of marriages today. But I still am looking forward to the day I get married. I don't like the idea of kids though..I think that can either break or bind the marriage together. Yeah I mean if you plan to get divorced later than there's no point. I prefer to think that we try to sort out our differences before the ultimatum. As in response to markme, I said that my grounds would have to be on adultery or if he abuses me or wouldn't change/compromise at all.

I totally agree with you on your second paragraph. That's what I personally think too..

Na..I'm too young to get married and as you can see I'm not a fan of teenage marriages. Hmm plus no one to marry haha so no..not for another ten years perphaps..when I find a guy that I think that's worth marrying. Most guys of today are jerks. No offence to Markme but Australian me..are just..so...ignorant?

nelvannya · 03-21-2008, 05:26 AM

Well I dont plan to be divorced... but ultimately NO matter how much you get to be with a person, how much unity is in the marriage, people now think in an independent manner, the other person has a say. I dont trust the other person.

If I was to marry I would marry Mark... then kill him off when he gets to powerful lols!
Great sex too...sorry back on track

In the end young people r to young