Crying

[Markme]

Its something that majority of us do.
Amongst males its sometimes projected as a sign of weakness.
Amongst Females it represents happiness, sadness and anger.

When i was a young lad, all of 3 years old, i used to look up to my brother, idolise every single word he spoke. He showed me many brilliant things, such as the simpsons, how to make ginger beer and that he had the patience to put up with me.

He being 11 years older than me, i guess you can say i grew up considerably faster than most 3 year olds.. i knew alot more than your average 3 year old back then. These days its not unusual for toddlers to know everything.

with my brother being 14 years old and being tough back then was a big thing, especially infront of his mate. He used to tell me not to cry and he used to reward me if i stopped crying and started to laugh.
He bought me lollies, caught me yabbies for our fish tank and let me play with his ninja stars and nun chucks.

Now 14 years after that ive kinda discovered that i cannot cry, because i will not let myself cry, even if i feel like it, i refused to let it come out.. i hate the idea of crying, its for the week, in my eyes.. but i also know that crying is a great release.

But i would rather punch some one, kick a door in or break something, which is a terrible trait for me to have.

its just funny how one little thing from when you were young can affect you so much later on in life.

But i cant say that i regret it.

[!-nessica-!]

im not sure whether this is meant as you seeking help.. it doesnt really seem like it.

i think its a disadvantage to you because as you said, crying is a great release. and its because you cant cry that you get violent. coz violence is taking you're emotions that step further and getting revenge.

crying is nice sometimes, it makes you feel better, even if its sometimes for no reason.

[Markme]

I think this is more a discussion, because i am not seeking help.

I dont hurt people, unless they have acted against me in the first place..
I usually give my punching bag a good working, ive broken the chord on it a few times from me slamming the crap out of it.

Where would you guys be today if you could never cry?

Theres a disorder that runs in my family where you dont understand other peoples feelings.. and you always seam to be blunt/rude.

My dad suffers from it, its got some funny name... i think aspurges is what its called.

[!-nessica-!]

aspurgers syndrome or something...

its hard to say where we'd be if we couldnt cry, because most people can and do.

some people would say it would be a benefit to not be affected by things in a way that makes you cry, but if you cant cry, then can you laugh?

you cant really be happy until you've been sad, because you compare both feelings with each other. you can be angry, but its not quite the same.

[Markme]

thats a simple question i cant and wont cry... but i laugh for about 30% of the day..
Im not quite sure that if you cant be sad then you wont be happy.

[!-nessica-!]

if you cant be sad then how do you know what being happy truly feels like?

[Markme]

lol i can turn that right around.. if you havnt been happy then how do you know what being sad is truely like.

crying doesnt indicate if your sad... because there is times in my days.. life.. where im extremely sad, feel extremely down.

But i dont cry.

[(sha)]

i dont think its a weakness to cry. not even for guys. it shows that they are human. i dont see how people can not cry. plus, these last few years i have seen some of the toughest men i know cry, nobody said they were being weak or anything.

and if i couldnt cry i dunno if anything would change. i mean now when i cry i just get angry and everything. so its kinda like both for me. other times when i cry, i just want to crawl up and not let anyone see me cause i just want to be alone. ya know.

[!-nessica-!]

crying shows that you're sad, and that you're letting it out. i know its possible to be extremely sad without crying, but crying is the release that lets it out of your system.

theres a book by torey haydon, and its about this girl who never cried because her father had told her it was for the weak. its a true story and its realllly good. it kinda reminds me of you a lil mark.

sha i agree, its not a weakness. it kinda shows that you actually feel.

[CyberPhoenix Kay?]

I got no problem with crying, i rarely do it because i do not often have a need, but if i feel like it, i do it, never a sign of weakness for me.

[Broken_mind]

i cry but hate doing it infront of people. its messy n makes u look bad. makes me look weak. makes u look less independant than u actually are

[Markme]

over the years, ive been there as that emotional rock for people.. there to wipe there tears away and helping them cope with their problems.. and i think its just built up this image of me that i will never cry and im sure people wouldnt know what to say to me if i was crying... because not one of my friends every have seen me cry cause i just dont do it.

crying is a sign that your human, crying is a sign that your just as normal as everyone else.. but im not sure i want to take that step.

[!-nessica-!]

do you never even want to cry?

[Markme]

sometimes i do get the urge to actually cry, when something majorly affects me..
but i just clench my teeth together and it goes away.

[!-nessica-!]

why dont you just do it when you want to? dont you think itd make you feel a lil better?