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Like What? I know there may be alternitives out there, but it's very hard to raise a child with only one parent....If that's what you ment by "alternitves". Also Child Support can never replace a father/mother. Of course there are other ways, I just think marrige is the best way for the kid...which I guess in my biased belif that the child should come first before the parents personal intrests.
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Bringing a child up together dosn't neccesarily mean marriage.
I think that having a father and mother who perhaps do not live together or are not married, but still do things together as a family and both spend a good amount of time with the kid is a hell of a lot better than having parents who got married because they thought they had to/where forced to by parents because the girl got pregnant and end up hating each other, fighting and not paying enough attention to the kid? I'm not saying that always happens, but it cannot be ruled out as a possibiity can it? My mother wanted to have an abortion, but was forced to keep her child, ie, me, and our relationship has completly broken down due to both our resentments of each other. There is no point marring someone you do not love just because you are pregnant, you will be unhappy and that unhappiness will reflect on the child and resentment may very well seriously effect you and the child.
There are other, healthier ways to bring up a child if you get pregnant by someone you do not want to marry.
And there is always abortion, adoption...etc.
There are plenty of options for pregnant teenagers, do not say there arn't or else people will feel forced into unhappy marriages and not only fuck up their lives but the lives of their children BY getting married.
I had an abortion 2 years ago, and I'm not going to start complaining about that, because it is part of my life, but say I hadn't, and I'd had the kid right, apart from my lifestyle choices not working with a child, say I had read your post and thought, fuck, my kid is gonna be messed up if I don't marry the father, you're suggesting I should have married the man who raped me? Yeah, that wouldn't have been a dysfunctional family, the child would have reaaalllly thanked me...
What I'm trying to say, is think about the different possibilities because it is not as black and white as you think it is.